Taking the time to learn and understand every aspect of the LGBTQIA+ community is one of the first steps in creating a safe environment for others. If you are unfamiliar with LGBTQIA+ concepts, you likely have many questions. Being thoughtful when navigating this information is vital.
What does LGBTQIA+ mean?
Over the years, LGBT has grown into LGBTQIA+ to be more inclusive of the vast amount of sexual orientations and gender identities in the world. These include lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, queer, intersex, asexual, ally, and more. Not every sexual orientation and gender identity has a letter included in the abbreviation, but each deserves to be heard and understood.
In case you are unfamiliar with any of the terms listed above, it is necessary to take some time to learn what each one means. Each sexual orientation and gender identity within the LGBTQIA+ umbrella can have unique meanings to those who identify with them, but here are the basics:
Lesbian
The term lesbian is used to describe women who are attracted to other women. This attraction can be physical, romantic, or emotional. It is important to note that one does not have to be cisgender to identify as a lesbian.
Gay
Men who are attracted to other men tend to identify as gay. This attraction can be physical, romantic, or emotional. In some cases, women who are attracted to other women prefer to use the term gay instead of lesbian.
Bisexual
The term bisexual is used to describe a person that is attracted to both men and women. It is possible for those who identify as bisexual not to consider gender in their attraction. The big thing is that they are not only attracted to one gender.
Transgender
Transgender is the term used to refer to someone that does not identify with their birth sex. Their gender expression and gender identities might differ. Not every transgender individual seeks out procedures to align their body with their identity. This decision does not affect whether or not they are transgender.
Questioning
The Q in LGBTQIA+ can stand for both queer and questioning. Questioning refers to someone who is still trying to figure out their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Queer
This term is used to refer to those who are not heterosexual. Queer is a vague word often used instead of lesbian, gay, bisexual, or other sexual orientations. Some people who identify as LGBTQIA+ do not like this word because it does not have an entirely positive past, while others enjoy using it to refer to the community as a whole.
Intersex
This term refers to those born without the reproductive or sexual anatomy to be considered male or female. There are many ways that a person could be intersex. Some have genitals that do not fit in binary terms, and others have chromosomes that differ from XY and XX. Some people who are born intersex have surgeries to be considered male or female.
Asexual
Asexual, or ace, is used for those who do not find themselves sexually attracted to others. When it comes to asexuality, there is a spectrum. Some asexual people experience minor levels of sexual attraction, while others experience none. It is also possible for an asexual person to find themselves in a romantic relationship, but they may lack interest in sex.
Ally
Anyone who avidly supports the LGBTQIA+ community is an ally. They stand up for others and shut down homophobia when they see it. Allies are committed to educating themselves and those around them. They constantly put in the effort to do better and help anyone who faces discrimination.
+
This symbol encompasses everyone else in the LGBTQIA+ community who may not have a specific letter in the abbreviation. There are tons of sexual orientations and genders within this community, and it would be impossible to include them all with a letter. The LGBTQIA+ community is ever-changing, and there is always room for growth.
What does it mean to be non-binary?
Within the gender binary, there are two genders; male and female. Those of the male sex are expected to be masculine, while those of the female sex are supposed to be feminine. In society, many things are viewed through this binary lens. Examples include restrooms, locker rooms, and clothing sections, but gender does not exist exclusively in binary terms.
There are many words to refer to those who do not identify as male or female. One of these terms is non-binary. Non-binary is an umbrella term for anyone who does not identify as male or female. People who do not understand this term may assume non-binary individuals are confused about their gender, but that is not the case. Non-binary people are valid in their identities.
Considering you have read this far likely means that you understand the importance of respecting the identities of others. Pronouns are no exception, and non-binary people may use unique ones.
Why use correct pronouns?
Pronouns are words used to refer to a person when not using their name. Typically, the pronoun ‘he’ is used by males, and ‘she’ is used by females, but gender does not necessarily determine what a person prefers. Some people prefer gender-neutral pronouns such as they, ze, and ey. There are many other gender-neutral pronouns out there.
It is impossible to know what pronouns to use by looking at someone, so it is best to ask. They may not be ready to use their preferred pronouns with everyone in their life. Be sure to communicate with them to ensure you do not 'out' anyone who is not ready.
Intentionally misgendering someone is hurtful. If you accidentally use the wrong pronoun for someone, be sure to apologize.
Even if you are a cisgender ally whose personal pronouns match your gender identity, it is beneficial to make them clear to others. You might do this by adding them to your name tag and email signature. Getting in the habit of using them when introducing yourself is nice too. Being upfront about your pronouns makes people feel more comfortable. Showing your support in this way can make a big difference.
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